Why is divorce so hard?

Think back to your very first break-up — maybe middle school or high school. Remember how devastating that felt? Multiply that by the end of a marriage, a family unit, and the promise of “forever.” Add in fears about finding love again, sadness for your children, financial uncertainty, and even the potential loss of extended family… and it makes perfect sense that divorce feels unbearable.

Even the most civil divorces carry grief. The emotions will come no matter what. My role as your divorce bestie is to help you manage the known factors — legal, financial, and logistical — so you can focus on healing and moving forward.

I am so overwhelmed! How can you help me?

First, I see you. Overwhelm is real — I’ve been there, when it felt like the world was caving in. Here’s my promise: one day, you will wake up and you’ll feel at peace again.

The space between today’s chaos and tomorrow’s calm is where I can help. I combine compassion for where you are now with practical knowledge of legal and financial processes and clear, strategic divorce planning based on what you want for your future. Together, we’ll turn overwhelm into empowerment.

I am SO SCARED of what lies ahead. How do I get past this?

It’s natural to fear the unknown. We’re here with this bit of comfort…what’s unknown to you has been navigated by many women before — myself included. I know how consuming the fear feels. I’ve got you. And our community has you.

We’ll create a step-by-step divorce roadmap so you can see what lies ahead. That plan will bring calm where there is chaos. As your confidence grows, so does your courage — until one day, you notice that anxiety has been replaced by an unshakable inner peace.

The sun will rise again, and you will smile. I promise.

Everything about divorce is already so expensive. Why should I work with you?

You’re right — divorce is costly. But the key is efficiency. When you’re prepared, you spend less time (and less money) with your attorney, accountant, or therapist.

• Attorney ($450/hr): They need facts. I’ll help you organize them at a fraction of the cost.

• Accountant ($400/hr): They need data. I’ll help you make sense of budgets and statements when numbers blur through tears.

• Therapist ($200/hr): They’re vital — but not always available in your hardest moments. I’m not a therapist, but I am your objective bestie, ready to listen and offer grounded advice when you need it most.

  Greater efficiency = less time. Less time = less money. Working with me often saves clients thousands.

I don’t even know what a “normal” divorce looks like. How do I know if mine is normal?

Every state has its own processes, forms, and timelines. A “normal” divorce might involve no kids, no pets, minimal assets, little debt, and two stable incomes.

When children, mixed assets, debt, or uneven income come into play — especially in a community property state — things get more complex, a bit abnormal.  Abnormal isn’t bad, it just means you’ll need a tailored plan. Together we’ll create a strategic roadmap to guide your unique journey and get you back to your own new normal.

I think my divorce is going to be complicated and contentious. What resources do you have to help me?

First off: I believe you. You’re not overreacting.

I’ve lived through a high-conflict divorce that still delivers aftershocks years later. Beyond my personal experience, our community connects you with a growing network of trusted attorneys, mediators, therapists, and financial experts — people you can lean on, learn from, and trust.

Do you work with men?

Sorry guys! To borrow from Taylor Swift: “If I were a man, I’d be the man.” But I’m a girl — and a girl’s girl at that. My mission is to help women reclaim their power and step into the most confident, badass versions of themselves.

I’m already knee deep in my divorce. Does it make sense to start now?

Absolutely. Support has no expiration date. Look how brave you’ve been handling this on your own so far! Our community includes women at every stage of divorce. We meet you where you are, whether you’re just starting, in the middle, or working on life after.

Privacy is critical to me and getting away for a private conversation is difficult. How do you offer coaching?

I understand. Protecting your privacy matters. That’s why I keep our circle small until  and only if you’re ready to share more widely. I know your available windows for talking may be short, so I’ll flex with your schedule — early mornings, late nights, whatever works. And yes, sometimes I’ll show up in jammies with coffee or in workout gear walking the dogs — because that’s what besties do.

I don’t know if I actually want a divorce. Is this the place for me?

Yes. In fact, this is the best place for you.

If you’re on the fence, the community gives you a safe space to explore the reality of divorce without romanticizing it. You’ll hear real stories, learn the legal basics, and weigh what “picking your hard” means for you — recommitting to your marriage or choosing uncoupling.

If you decide to move forward, you’ll enter the process with strength, structure, and clarity. Because knowledge is power — and preparation is the key to success.